Bad advice for parents: how to raise an anxious child
Raising a child is a complex process that requires attention from parents and the right approach. However, most parents make a huge number of mistakes during the upbringing, because of which the child becomes unsure and anxious.
These qualities will annoy the parents, but it will not work to fix them, because here it is only a matter of education. Therefore, everyone should know about harmful tips that should never be put into practice.
Turn any difficulties into a crisis
Is the child constantly worried or nervous out of the blue? Why not start shouting at him and not demonstrate his power?
For example: a child accidentally hurt something, not wanting this, and parents begin to raise a real scandal on this basis. As a result, it turns out that the child will be afraid to take even a minimal action, because if something does not work out, he will be immediately punished for it.
Threaten him constantly
Do you want to achieve maximum anxiety and fright in life? The best solution is to constantly threaten him. The most striking example: did something wrong – right to the orphanage. Of course, some children may not respond to threats of this nature, but they certainly remain at heart. Therefore, such harmless phrases, according to many parents, can lead to terrifying consequences for each child in the future.
Change your emotional state
There is a type of parents who smile, and after a few minutes they start screaming and raising a serious scandal. This is a great way to make a scared person out of your child who will be afraid of everything in the future. But the fact is that children do not tolerate changes in the moral component. Therefore, they will have a fear that if changes come in their life or they need to take a certain action, they will simply abandon it, remembering about past outcomes.
Don't explain anything to him
A child is the same person, he has his own emotions, feelings and questions. For example: it did not work out to buy a new bike or the parents quarreled a bit on raised tones. Why not explain the situation to him? He will think about it and draw his conclusions. If everything is normal – will accept a response from their parents. But if you don’t explain anything to him, you can’t do without problems for sure.
Punish him for any failures
I got a deuce – a week without a computer, I wiped it off the table badly – raised a scandal, I couldn’t complete the task at school – call it dumb. All this helps in education, especially if you want to make him an insecure member of society. Children remember all the mistakes of their childhood. Therefore, in the future they will not even try to do something, realizing that they can be punished at any time.
Isolate the child from the outside world
So that the child does not fall into bad company and does not begin to walk with his peers, gaining bad habits – isolate him from society. The result is a person who is not able to be in society. Will he be well in life? Of course, but only at home when his mother is nearby. He is unlikely to find a wife or a job.