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This letter, along with 124 other fascinating pieces of correspondence, can be found in the bestselling book, Letters of Note. For more info, visit Books of Note. Image: Thom and John Steinbeck with their father in 1954, courtesy of UC Berkeley. We had your letter this morning. I will answer it from my point of view and of course Elaine will from hers. First—if you are in love—that’s a good thing—that’s about the best thing that can happen to anyone.
Don’t let anyone make it small or light to you. Second—There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you—of kindness and consideration and respect—not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. You say this is not puppy love. If you feel so deeply—of course it isn’t puppy love.
But I don’t think you were asking me what you feel. What you wanted me to help you with is what to do about it—and that I can tell you. Glory in it for one thing and be very glad and grateful for it. The object of love is the best and most beautiful. Try to live up to it. If you love someone—there is no possible harm in saying so—only you must remember that some people are very shy and sometimes the saying must take that shyness into consideration. Girls have a way of knowing or feeling what you feel, but they usually like to hear it also.
It sometimes happens that what you feel is not returned for one reason or another—but that does not make your feeling less valuable and good. Lastly, I know your feeling because I have it and I’m glad you have it. We will be glad to meet Susan. But Elaine will make all such arrangements because that is her province and she will be very glad to.
She knows about love too and maybe she can give you more help than I can. If it is right, it happens—The main thing is not to hurry. Comments are now closed on Letters of Note. Letters of Note, PO Box 322, Manchester, M21 3DL. The bestselling Letters of Note books can be bought at Books of Note. Visit the Archives for hundreds more letters. Study, work or travel in the UK.
Try to write English frequently, in a wide range of formal and informal situations. You might look for a penfriend or offer a language exchange with an English-speaking friend. Alternatively, use a Messenger service or a chatroom. Ask your friend to correct your mistakes, and try to use new vocabulary you learn so that you understand how to use it correctly. If it is important, ask an English-speaking friend or teacher to check it before you send it. Study how to write essays in English.
Write about your opinions to discussion groups which interest you. For your security, you should not give out your personal address or phone number to someone until you are sure you can trust the person. If you meet your penfriend, make sure that the first meeting is in a public place, and if possible take a friend with you. You may use any media to do this, but if you are living in different places, an exchange using e-mail or a Messenger service is the most common. Many people enjoy sending an receiving e-mail, especially if they share a common interest. Writing e-mails to a friend in English allows you as much time as you need to write the message and look up any words or grammar that you don’t know. If you are paying for each minute that you are connected to the internet, you may want to write e-mails while you are not connected and then connect just to type the message and send it.
E-mails are usually written in a less formal style than letters. It is common to start an e-mail with the name of the person you are writing to, without starting with the word “Dear”. If you are studying abroad in the UK, you might use a blog to create a diary about your life in the UK. Note that the blog is not private, so do not write things there which you do not want others to read. Yahoo and AOL provide a service called an Instant Messenger.