Educating adolescents: useful tips
Raising a teenager is always a test of parents for endurance.
During this period of child development, changes in the hormonal background, appearance, and world outlook occur. Yesterday's baby becomes almost an adult and does not know what to do with it.
Psychologists and educators recommend the following:
1. Be a friend. At the moment of revaluation of values, the child no longer has authorities. And if your opinion yesterday was considered unshakable, and the instructions were not discussed, today everything is not so. The authoritarian style of education in this case will not work. Much more correct to be a friend for the child.
2. Sex, drugs and alcohol. Children are embarrassed to talk with their parents on such frank topics, and even in school they giggle more than they listen to in specialized classes. You need to develop an approach to the child and talk about these problems. If you do not do this, he will be able to discuss with friends. And if the discussion mates are unreliable, they may decide to try these things.
3. Social networks. Each child has his own social network profile, even if you are sure that this is not the case. Try to find it and analyze it. Often his posts on the Internet will tell you more than a confidential conversation. There you can see what he became interested in and with which people he maintains relationships.
4. General classes. Of course, the teenager has become withdrawn and does not want to spend time with you as before. But does this mean that you should give up? Find the approach and change the format of communication. Find out what interests him and have a hobby together.
5. Argue correctly. Do not boast of your age and status: in moments of discussion, appeal only with reasonable arguments. Teenagers are smart, and even if they first take your position with bayonets, then afterwards they will definitely reflect. If you begin to shout and crush with authority, then the children will simply close themselves up and stop listening to you.
6. Company. It is very important to know what kind of people a teenager prefers to spend time with. Tell your child that you would like to meet his friends and show genuine interest. If you personally know your friends, you will be calmer.